We should not be obsessed with building a "no regrets" life for our children.

Many people believe that "no regrets" is the highest state of life.

Especially those older people, because they have more life experience than children, more hope to help children reduce regrets, eliminate regrets in life.

Regret often occurs because we are not satisfied with our actions or decisions, or even believe that they were wrong.

However, having regret also means that we have higher expectations and aspirations for ourselves.

Basic regret is the most common and reflects a desire for stability.

This regret usually appears early in life because it often involves choices: do you choose to make short-term sacrifices for long-term rewards, or do you enjoy things in the short term but pay a heavy price in the end?

This may seem like a simple choice, but it's actually a difficult one for many people.

Regretting not studying harder and getting a higher degree;

I regret that I did not keep exercising, and now I am weak and sick, spending a lot of energy and money...

Although it is difficult to make up for this kind of regret, many times it is not entirely because of personal lack of effort, but because the surrounding environment and conditions are not mature enough - such as physical conditions, economic conditions, social concepts, etc., only when these reach a certain level, we have the energy to pursue more opportunities and meaning.

Courageous regret reflects a desire to grow.

If basic regret comes from not planning ahead, working hard, and following through, courageous regret comes from not acting accordingly -- being cautious might have been a good thing, but thinking you missed out on a greater reward for not trying.

There are also some parents who regret not taking their children out earlier to experience the fun of study Tours.

Some introverted children will also regret, feeling that because of "social terrorism" missed a lot of opportunities, "if only I had dared to try, even if the failure will not have much impact."

Moral regret reflects the pursuit of goodness.

This type of regret is tied to personal values, and although there are few, there are many kinds, and it is also the most painful for the individual.

Even children can experience this dilemma:

A good friend cheated on an exam, should we expose it or ignore it? Is that a betrayal of a friend?

There are children in the class who are excluded. Should we help them or stay out of it?

Relational regret reflects the love instinct.

"If only I had taken the initiative to contact each other" is a direct manifestation of this regret, and older people are more likely to feel estranged from their loved ones. However, even between parents and children, this kind of regret can occur.

Some people regret that when they were young and frivolous, they always felt that they knew more than their parents and often alienated them because of their different views.

There are also people regret, because after the graduation of different things, no longer contact once friends, afraid of their sudden contact is too abrupt;

Some parents regret that when their children are bullied, they do not stand on their side, but to defend others, even if they do their best to support their children later, they feel that they can not make up for it.

The cause of this kind of regret is very simple: the desire to love, the desire to belong, there will be regret.